It is true that the first year you are married you are in the "honeymoon state." I was told that the first couple of years will be the hardest, you have to get use to your husband/wife's weird tendencies and living habits. Russ and I have managed to make it one year, one month, and five days without a fight. Of course, you have the mood swings that will make the other one frustrated with you or the sporting event where the game didn't turn out the way your spouse wanted and they get really angry so you get mad at them but other than that we have made it through peacefully so far.
But once you get through that honeymoon state, you start to realize some odd tendencies each other have. On Sunday, Russ just noticed that I put the toilet paper in where it rolls from under where he prefers on top. Over the past year, I got annoyed with the toilet paper on top but didn't think anything of it until he mentioned it. So we compromised, who ever puts in the new toilet paper roll gets to have it the way they like and the other person can't change it until it is time for a new one and that is what marriage is about :)
Of course, there are tons of other little things. I like for the vacuum to go the closet with the handle facing the door and Russ puts it in the other way. Every night before I go to bed, I put the remotes in order and fold up the blankets. Russ has to go through the entire house and check all the doors, even if we didn't use it that day. I like for the gate to be closed to the backyard fence at all times, Russ forgets to close it when taking down the trash. Russ picks up the newspaper the same day it comes, I sometimes leave it for days. I like to dry off before stepping on the bath mat, Russ gets out then dries off. See we all have those little things and really you do not notice until you live together but that is part of building a marriage and making compromises, the little things do matter!
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